Do I Need a Power of Attorney if I am Married?

In California, being married does not automatically grant a spouse power of attorney over the other. Power of attorney is a legal document that allows one person (the "agent" or "attorney-in-fact") to act on behalf of another (the "principal") in various legal and financial matters.

If you want your spouse to have power of attorney, you would need to specifically designate them as your agent through a power of attorney document. This document should outline the specific powers you are granting to your spouse, as well as any limitations or conditions.

It's important to note that there are different types of powers of attorney, including:

1. **General Power of Attorney**: This grants broad powers to the agent and allows them to handle a wide range of financial and legal matters on your behalf.

2. **Limited (or Special) Power of Attorney**: This grants specific, limited powers to the agent for a particular purpose or within a specific time frame.

3. **Durable Power of Attorney**: This remains in effect even if the principal becomes incapacitated or unable to make decisions.

4. **Springing Power of Attorney**: This "springs" into effect only under specific circumstances outlined in the document, such as when the principal becomes incapacitated.

Regardless of your marital status, it's crucial to carefully consider who you appoint as your power of attorney, ensuring that they are trustworthy, responsible, and capable of making decisions in your best interest. 

If you have questions about whether a durable power of attorney is something you need, please reach out and schedule a consultation, I can help you decide what type of power of attorney is right for you.  

Understanding the Different Types of Powers of Attorney

Different Types of Powers of Attorney

There are different types of powers of attorney. They are similar, yet different enough, that it is important to understand the difference.

These powers can be used in different situations - for the management of health care decisions, for the management of financial decisions, or for the management of real property. Though they allow you to take different actions, they share some common characteristics. The powers granted by these documents are often very broad, allowing the person the ability to make decisions on your behalf as if they were you.

What are General Powers of Attorney?

A General Power of Attorney is a formal document that allows you to appoint someone to act on your behalf, no matter the circumstances. It gives this person the power to handle your finances, property, and business affairs. If it is not durable it will not be effective if you become incapacitated.

What are Durable Powers of Attorney?

A durable power of attorney allows an individual to give someone else the authority to make personal decisions for them. It is called a "durable" power of attorney because it continues to function even if you have become incapacitated. This is in contrast to a non-durable general durable power of attorney which stops being effective if you are incapacitated.

What are Springing Powers of Attorney?

A power of attorney (for any type of action or decision) is said to be a "springing" power of attorney if it is the type of power of attorney that grants the person the ability to act on your behalf only if you become incapacitated. The person that is identified in the power of attorney cannot make any decision on your behalf unless you are unable to make those decisions for yourself. 

Springing Powers of Attorney are also known as "springing" powers because they “spring” into effect (become operational) when a triggering event occurs, such as a mental disability diagnosis. In this case, the document identifies what the triggering event will be before the person can make decisions for you.

What Does an Immediately Effective Power of Attorney do Differently? 

If a Power of Attorney is said to be "immediately effective" that means that the person being granted the power can take actions under that document without you being incapacitated, or without you meeting any pre-condition. Many Powers of Attorney have the ability to start as a springing power but then be activated with the signing of an authorization, allowing the protective nature of the springing power to be combined with the ability to plan for its use with a power that is immediately effective.

Who Can Benefit From a Durable Power of Attorney?

People often think that a power of attorney is only beneficial for the elderly -  their parents or grandparents, for example. In fact powers of attorney are beneficial for most of us. We never know when something may change and we may need the help of a trusted companion. Since these documents can only be prepared when we don't need them, it is something to take care of early. Without a power of attorney in place the only option left for our loved ones is to utilize the power of the courts to grant the ability to make decisions on our behalf. This is true for anyone - our children once they are 18, our partners, our parents. 

I can help you understand the different types of powers of attorney and help you to be prepared for the unexpected situations in life.  

What is Estate Planning?

What is Estate Planning?

Estate planning is the process of making decisions about
what happens to your property, including real estate, personal possessions and money, after you die. It is the process of thinking things through and sharing your decisions with the people who matter to you.

Estate planning helps you determine who will manage your assets, provide financial support for your dependents and how they (and you!) will be cared for. It also explains how a person's final wishes are followed in the event of incapacity and death.

The best estate planning is done after careful consideration, thinking through who matters to you, what you have, and how things are best handled. You can reach out for a complimentary consultation with me and we can explore how estate planning can help you meet your goals for your self and those you care about.

Can I Inherit Mom's Mortgage When She Dies?

In many families our home is our most valuable possession. We invest a lot in order to have our homes - time, money, work, love, and often tears. It is the place where we gather with those we love. We have dreams of the future, share memories of the past, and plan for tomorrow. as they say "Home is where the heart is."

When we think about losing a loved one we can also be faced with losing the place that holds those memories - the family home. 

 The family politics surrounding the family home can be interesting. Just like with the stuff that is inside of it some might not want it for themselves, but hate the idea of seeing it gone to strangers. Sometimes someone does not want the home to be sold, they do not want it themselves, and they do not want a sibling to have the home either. As with all things related to losing a family member, the internal politics can be... complicated.

Though figuring out the answers related to the family politics is not a legal analysis, the question of how to keep the family home can be made easier knowing that the mortgage company cannot call the loan due when it transfers to a beneficiary through an estate plan, and it also cannot apply the mortgage company's ability to pay rule.

Most mortgages contain an acceleration clause that will allow a mortgage company to call a note due "if all or any part of the property, or an interest therein, securing the real property loan is sold or transferred without the lender's prior written consent." But Federal law prohibits a lender from implementing an acceleration clause where the property is transferred to a relative upon the death of the borrower. This provision allows an heir to retain a property after inheritance without worrying that the mortgage holder will call the note due when it transfers into their name.

So now that you have discovered that you can in fact keep the mortgage on the family home without worrying that the lander is gong to call the note due when you inherit it, do you need to worry about being able to qualify for the mortgage? The answer to this related question is also a solid no. As long as you can continue to pay the mortgage the mortgage holder cannot make you reapply for a loan on the property. You can instead start paying on the same terms as were available to the person you inherited the property from, and can even apply for a modification of those loan terms.

Losing someone you love is a difficult enough time to also be worried about being able to qualify for an obtain a mortgage in order to keep the family home. Luckily we are protected from these difficult challenges and can instead focus on the more pressing concerns of learning to live in a whole new world without someone we love. 

Do not allow the fear of how your things will be taken care of when you are not able to take care of them keep you from putting your plan in place. Reach out today and start planning for what will happen to the family home so those you love will not have to do so  once you are gone.

The Options are Limitless

"I chose not to have children, so I do not need an estate plan." 

This statement is generally true, but it is generally true for all of us, not just those of us who choose not to have children. The state has designed an estate plan that any of us can follow if we do not put one together ourselves.
The problem is that the estate plan designed by the state is probably not going to be the one we would choose for ourselves. Everything we worked for in life will end up going to the niece we never knew, or the brother who never came to visit. Or it could all just end up going to the state. The process is called probate, and how probate works is a discussion for another day.

While an estate plan is not necessary for anyone, it is certainly something that is desirable for all of us. We work hard in our lives, when we are no longer here we have the ability to share with the things that matter to us. This is especially true if we have anything that we care about in life.
We have the option of sharing our assets any way we choose.

• Have pets? Make sure they are taken care of.
• Love animals? Donate to your favorite animal welfare organization.
• Love books? Set up a scholarship fund for writers.

Making the choice to not have children does not mean that you do not want a say in how your things are treated when you are gone. For some, this act of not having children was a conscious choice and we can make another conscious choice to distribute our accomplishments in the way that we chose to live our lives - with deliberation. We can choose to give to the things we care about.

The options are as limitless as your imaginations.

A Time to Assess

Now that the holidays are behind us, and the excitement, anticipation, and stress of the season are no longer bearing down on us and clouding our minds, we can turn to reflect on our experiences at the holidays. Though it may seem strange, this is a great time to assess whether those we love are in need of greater assistance than we realized.

There are many people who we only see once or twice a year, and the holidays are often that time. This makes the perfect time to reflect on our experiences and see how we feel about how our loved ones are doing. It is hard to think about our parents and grandparents needing help, but it is even harder to think about them being alone and not having their needs met.


The fun and excitement of the holidays is a great time to spend with the ones we love. It also can be a time where our loved ones are able to mask and hide how life really is for those who are getting older. With the hustle and bustle of family gatherings and all the accompanying work, being tired and forgetful might be normal, but at the same time it might not. Having nothing in the house to eat except what is needed for the family feast might be a sign that someone we love is struggling, either to go shopping or financially to afford groceries.

After the holidays is a great time to check back in with those ones we love and talk to them about how life is. With all the joy of having family close to them behind them it is not to surprising to think that depression can follow, especially for those living alone or far from close family. It is also a great time to find out who our loved ones friends are and to make sure we have their contact information and they in turn have ours as well.

In the excitement of the season it can be easy to overlook signs that someone we love needs help, but with a little reflection we can sometimes spot something early enough to help those we love be able to make decisions for themselves about changes that need to be made. We can help them see that they need someone to come in once a week to help with the house, or that they need someone to bring them their groceries.

This can be a good time to talk to our loved ones and make sure they have thought through how they want things handled if they cannot do so themselves and to encourage them to find an estate planning attorney they like and trust to help them decide on and to record how they want things handled for their own lives, allowing them to make their own decisions while they can, saving themselves and their loved ones the pain and strife of having to make legal decisions on their behalf.

If you need help learning what your options are and making sure that they are available for your loved ones to follow, or if someone you know could use some help, reach out to me. I can help you or those you care about, decide how you want things to be handled and put a plan together that reflects your choices.

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Magic of the Season

For me, living in a home with small children renews the magic of the holiday season exponentially. They look around and see the magic and the surprise and their energy is infectious.Their wonder and joy at the lights and magic in the air reminds us of the beauty of life, that we each have just this one time, this one chance, to live and share and give and love.

The days are now growing longer, and the nights shorter. The energy that fills my life has shown bright on these long, dark nights with the sounds of laughter and running, the joy of living.

I am reminded that the holidays are a time to give thanks, to show my love and appreciation for those I am fortunate to have in my life. They are a time to celebrate this gift of life and to reflect on what we have accomplished and what we will accomplish in the year and years ahead. To set the framework now to ensure the best for the year ahead, to learn from the year that is falling behind, and to find joy in the life that we live.

The relationships I have forged remind me everyday that what we each truly want is to be loved and to share our love with those around us. It is a wonderful time to reflect and reinforce what we want our lives to mean and what we want our lives to be remembered for once we are gone. I meet many different people in my life, and those I am fortunate to have the chance to work with reinforce for me this idea that we want to share our lives and share our love with all those we are connected to for as long as we can.

If you reflect on your year and look ahead with a desire to put a framework in place to share with those you love reach out to me and we can design an estate plan that accomplishes just what you want. Learn more at my website or on my facebook page.

Disclaimer: The materials contained on this page is for general informational purposes, it should not be considered formal legal advice and does not create a formal lawyer/client relationship.