Here Comes the Rain!

It seems late to me, the very end of November, to be seeing the first rains of the season. It has been a beautiful summer, and a summer-like fall, but now the forecast calls for a change in weather
conditions and rain is on the horizon. Here in the mountains close to California's Central Coast, where beautiful weather is the norm, we prepare for a real storm with rain coming to wash away the grime of a year, and nurture the beauty we so adore.

Our house sits in the forest, and the change in weather means preparations need to occur. The summer umbrella needs to be folded and brought in, and the chairs we enjoyed the sunshine in need to be covered. My eldest is on vacation, so we have raked leaves and cleared the way for the rain to wash through the yard together with almost a festive sense of anticipation, enjoying that universal childhood experience of jumping and diving in the pile we created. Most get cleared, but some remain to provide habitat for the creatures in winter.

The trees mean not just leaves in the yard, however, but also leaves on the roof and in gutters. Downspouts need to be cleared and our drainage system needs to be inspected. I'm not the type who waits around for someone else to handle the chores that need doing, so I bring out the ladder and climb up to clear the leaves and detritus of a year from the gutters. Cleaning gutters can be tedious, and my mind turns to how many people get hurt doing simple home maintenance tasks such as this. Instead of moving the ladder, you climb one rung too high and lose your balance. Instead of climbing down and then up again, you reach and stretch to just finish the job, pushing the ladder out from under yourself. You step off one step too soon and fall backwards. Though the six foot ladder might not look so tall, the drop can cause more harm than you realize.

It seems silly that such a yearly chore can make you realize that you need to have your legal documents in place. And again we feel like those accidents are something that "won't happen to me". The reality is though, that it is not unheard of for people to fall from ladders at home, requiring medical treatment, trips to the emergency rooms, and even sometimes worse.

It's never a bad time, and never a better time than now, to make sure you have papers in place to protect yourself and your loved ones. If you get hurt cleaning your gutters who will be able to take care of your responsibilities? If you get hurt and are hospitalized, who will make your medical decisions for you? Making sure that you have all of your appropriate powers of attorney in place and current can save you and the ones you loved from unnecessary headache and heartache.

Now that the gutters are cleaned, and the holiday season is upon us, it is time for the decorating, with all of its associated potential hazards, to truly begin! Reach out and give me a call so I can help ensure that you are prepared for the unanticipated accidents of the season.

Self Care... With a Lawyer?

A day at the spa, relaxing on the beach, taking a long fishing trip, going for a hike in a beautiful place. These are all examples of activities one can take that fall into the category of self care. Seeing an attorney does not appear anywhere on the list. Seeing an attorney is undoubtedly not the first thing when you think of self care, but if we take a moment to look deeper we can see that it is.

In this constantly changing and busy world, taking care of ourselves and our loved ones seems to be more difficult than ever. It seems that the American culture is one of busy-ness - long to do lists, always connected and available to answer the phone or an email wherever and whenever they pop up. This constant connectedness can interfere with our ability to step back and gain perspective about the why of it all - why do we work? why do we care? what's the purpose? Self care can help bring us back so we can really answer those questions again.

If we each take a moment and think about why we do what we do we can see our underlying motivation. Sure, having a home, food, electricity are all wonderful in and of themselves, but if you are a parent you know you are also doing these things to provide a good life for your children. You need a vacation, so you go to Disneyland - not because you are a lifelong Mickey Mouse fan, but because you want your children to have the experience of going. If you are a grandparent you know you are also working to share life experiences with your children and grandchildren. And for those who are pet parents we know we are also looking for ways to enrich the lives of our pets with comfort, treats and travel. Self care can mean learning to love living life again, which sharing those experiences shows us.

The desire to continue being able to help those we love can be one of our fears with growing older and with death. We know we still want to contribute and help even when we are gone can be a source of underlying stress in our lives. For parents of young children the thought of someone else raising them, and possibly not someone we would have chosen, can be unfathomable. For our pets, not knowing whether they will be cared for or if they will be turned over to the animal shelter with an uncertain future.  That's where seeing an attorney becomes self care.

When we put our wishes and desires down on paper and let everyone know what we want for the things that matter most to us we have a huge burden lifted from our shoulders. We can enjoy more of life, and do more living, knowing that if something happens to us those we love will be cared for long after we can no longer do so ourselves. Once we see what we are capable of, we can see clearly that a visit to an attorney is an important form of self-care afterall.

Changing Seasons

The seasons are changing and fall is in full swing. The air is crisp in the mornings, but warms come afternoon- inviting us outside to enjoy just a little more sunshine. October is a special month. It is the start of the holiday season with wonderful celebrations of Halloween and Dias de los Muertos. Costumes, and pumpkin carving, candy and marigolds. As the mother of two young children these holidays have a special place in my heart.

Halloween is a special time for young children especially. It allows them to connect with the world of possibility and live their imaginations. They get to celebrate their ideas of what could be - what could be real in the world and what could be possible for them. They can take themselves wherever their fancy takes them, growing their imaginations while opening possibilities for their future. A healthy imagination is the heart of creativity and can change the ideas of possibility to probability.

I was fortunate to celebrate Dias de los Muertos with friends this year. Taking time to honor my ancestors, and theirs, and reflect up on those who went before me, the lives they lived so that I could live this life and so that my children could live theirs. It is interesting to take a moment to contemplate where we come from in such a literal sense. It can help to remind us that we are not alone - that our way was paved by the love and struggles of the lives of many who continue to hold us up and move us forward.

These days tie what was tightly to what may be. Being back to back like they are is like a condensed version of life itself and gives us a chance to reflect on how we want what was to carry forward to what will be. It reminds us that the love and work of our ancestors helped carry us to where we are today and that we have an opportunity to take what was given to us and decide how we want it carried forward into the future. We can choose how we want to fuel the imaginations of our children by sharing what we have learned as we have journeyed through life.

An estate plan is not just a legal document that conveys our property. Preparing an estate plan also gives us an opportunity to share our dreams and the fruit of our imaginations with those we love. We can use it as a trigger to prepare a document that doesn't just transfer property, but can also include our thoughts on life and leave a message to the ones we love. LIke a time capsule, it can exist to share the past with the future and create an ongoing message of love. Contact me today to see how you can connect the past with the future.

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